The Definitive List Of Questions To Get To Know Yourself

Understanding Who You Are

Listen, I get it. Most of the time when we hear the words "self-development" or "self-help" we start to cringe. Well this article is for those who cringe but are also just a little bit curious. It’s important to know why we do what we do. The answers are the pathway to finding self-fulfillment and purpose.

Sure this all sounds like a load of jargon but I genuinely do believe it's true. And, if we're keeping on the whole being real tip, then let's just say everybody wants just that. To have meaningful relationships, feel fulfilled and be happy. If you say otherwise you're probably lying.

Experiencing A Loss Of Identity

It's to little or no surprise that we tend to lose ourselves in others. Whether it's a best friend that is extremely influencial or a long term relationship, the people we surround ourselves with have a direct impact on who we are. We change unbeknownst over time. It's important to see those changes and realize why we are aligning ourselves with new beliefs. Maybe the circumstances have changed, it's still important to be cognizant. Ripping through a list of questions that force self-reflection is a great way to notice changes in self and reground yourself in your own belief system.

The Perks Of Knowing

It's hard to fully give yourself in a relationship if you don't have a basic understanding of who you are. It's almost like you should know yourself like you know your best friend. Be your best friend. You want to hang up the loneliness and find someone you're compatible with. Or maybe you are stuck in a negative loop with your current partner and you're trying to get out.

Figuring out what exactly makes us tick is the answer to everything (well almost everything). We can disarm situations faster, make better decisions, and learn to be our best selves. I personally believe there is a direct correlation between one's happiness and their level of self-awareness. The fact that you are here reading this now says you have some level of wanting to know. Below are a list of questions with little comments to make you think.

The List

Introspection As An Edge

I stumbled across a great article about the power in knowing yourself and living authentically that got me inspired. Introspection can be the worst. It forces us to be honest with ourselves and take that look within. It's a great way to point out where our flaws are and why we suck at times. Or on the contrary, where our strengths are and when we are unbelievably awesome.

If I know that I learn best in a classroom setting and from watching videos, I can now expedite my learning process. Or if I'm a perfectionist, maybe I can come to terms that perfection is not always attainable, and I'm wasting time trying to achieve it. Or if having a family is what success looks like, then I should be looking for a partner who isn't solely focused on their career, but also wants to have a family. These tiny details all add up to you.

Knowing how I express my love best has helped my marriage grow exponentially over the years. I understand that I have specific ways of letting my wife know that I love her. The book The Five Love Languages helped me better understand myself.

Finding That Eternal Sunshine

Realizing them gives you an edge. We as human beings are inherently social creatures. We are all on the same path eternally searching for purpose and happiness. I mean what else is there besides that? Anything we pursue in life leads right back to those two things. You want money because it makes you happy. You want fame or power in your work because it makes you feel important which in turn makes you...happy. Looking inward can be extremely powerful. By better understanding ourselves, we are giving ourselves the best chance at getting just that: Happiness.